Some Countries Spend More On Domestic Violence Costs Than On Primary Education: Report

WOMEN. HEALING. VIOLENCE.

 | by  Rebecca Klein

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A report out this week from the World Bank Group examined some of the challenges facing women around the world and uncovered some unequivocally devastating finds. As shown in the map below, a significant share of women, especially in Africa and South Asia, have experienced physical or sexual violence from an intimate partner during their lifetime.

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Ipsy Bag May 2014

I hope everyone has had a wonderful weekend. I feel rejuvenated and back to my old self. I’ve been in a funk lately, and a fun weekend filled with laughter, sun, and some adult beverages are just what the doctor ordered.

I got my Ipsy bag this weekend, and I am, once again, obsessed. If you’re new to this, Ipsy bags are $10 a month and are filled with a bunch of make up and beauty goodies.

 

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This months theme was “fresh picks.” I love the burlap-esque bag everything came in.
1. Therapy Session Hair Mask by Eva NYC ($12 full sized)- I LOVE it when I get a full sized product that pays for the entire bag. I will definitely be using this product once the summer is in full swing. My hair can use some rejuvenation after being attacked by salt, chlorine, and sun.
2. Mineral Eyeshadow Duo by Pacifica in Celestial and Opal ($14 full sized)- The colors in this duo are so pretty and sheer. These are perfect for a soft look for work, where I tend to go minimal most days of the week.
3. Microdermabrasion Scrub by derma e ($29.25 full sized)- As I’ve said before, I love scrubs. This one smells amazing. What’s even better is that I’ll be able to use this a few times to see if it actually works. It’s hard to commit to a product when you’re not sure about it.
4. Take It Off! Exfoliating Honey Peel Off Mask by Hey Honey ($35 full sized)- Yep. I love peel off masks. There’s something fun about peeling off dirt from your face, literally. I was very excited to find this in my bag.
5. Sans Tan Anti-aging Sunscreen by Jersey Shore Sun ($40 full sized)- I really disliked this product. It had a strange consistency and left my face feeling gross. There’s also no way in hell I’m paying $40 for 2 oz. of sunscreen. No thanks.

Although I didn’t like the sunscreen, Ipsy doesn’t disappoint me, just like every month. Are you convinced yet?

I hope everyone has a wonderful week. We’re having a retirement luncheon on Friday for one of my coworkers, so I’m looking forward to that. I’m going to work on an arrangement to give to her as a remembrance. Next weekend, I get to see one of my sorority sisters in Ocean City, MD, and have a Memorial Day Party to go to on Sunday. So instead, here’s to hoping this week goes by fast!

Love with Food May 2014

If there is one constant about me, it’s that I like to eat. Call me whatever, but I will own that shit. I also, as previously mentioned, love getting things in the mail. That’s how my Love with Food subscription came about. For $10 a month, you will receive a box of fun goodies to try. The company will also buy a meal for a hungry child for every box you buy. What’s better than that?! Here’s this month’s box:

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This month’s theme was Derby Days. All the snacks were healthy and inspired to keep you going on long days. Here’s what I got:

– Honeybush Caramel, Southern Mint, and Tropical Green Tea by Revolution Teas- I am so excited to try these. I love tea, but usually just drink regular, unsweet or green tea. It’ll be nice to try something new.

– Tarallino Snack by Terre Di Puglia- These are like little dried pasta chips. They’re going in my lunch tomorrow.

– Tropical Peach Drink Mix by Flavrz Organic- Organic drink mix that screams summer? Count me in.

– Sweet Potato Chips by One Potato, Two Potato- I am not a fan of sweet potato chips, but my coworker will enjoy the gift.

– Sea Salt Caramels by Le Caramel- Oh. my. God. Yes please. So good.

– Key Lime Cookies by J&M- These were a yummy snack, but I like key lime anything. Wasn’t a hard sell. 

– Giddy Up and Go Granola- I never eat loose granola, but I’m excited to mix this with yogurt. It looks yummy.

– Hickory Smoked and Italian Black Truffle Sea Salt by The Spice Lab- These just make me feel fancy. I’m holding onto them until I find a good use.

 

As you can see by the list, the box is well worth $10. You can buy any of the products through the company’s website. If you’re interested in signing up, please click here: http://lovewithfood.com/invite?m=r&ref=ADJ

24 things I’ve learned in 24 years

Surprisingly, I am not currently tired, even after standing in the rain for 2 loooong hours today. But that’s another story.

I started listening to Mayday Parade (oh yeah. I went there. I still love them. My inner emo kid is alive and well.) and perusing the internet, because I hate laying in bed just willing yourself to go the hell to sleep. I started reading random posts online and one was about life lessons. Well, hey, I’m living life. I can’t sleep. I like force feeding people my thoughts. I can write a post about that. Easy.

Let me just say ahead of time, do as I say, not as I do. Many of these “lessons” are a work in progress. I’m learning here, too.

 

1. Get rid of all the toxic bullshit in your life. If it no longer serves you, makes you happy, or makes you a better person, let it go. You will have much more room for the good in your life. 

2. Don’t let heartbreak make you cold. Getting hurt is awful. But allowing it to shut you away from love is worse. Build a fence around your heart, not a fortress.

3. Second chances are earned, not given. Give them to people sparingly. 

4. Go with your gut. I have to listen to mine on a daily basis in my career field. I’ve learned to listen to it. If I get a bad feeling about someone or a situation in my personal life, I don’t go through with it. Your instincts are usually spot on.

5. You don’t have to have a good reason, you can just say no. People who love you will not press you for follow up.

6. Make a budget and stick to it. Do you really need that totally ridiculous thing that you’ll forget about 2 days from now? If you budget your money, you can afford something kickass and timeless down the line.

7. Spend time alone with yourself. Get to know who you are. Me time is chicken soup for the soul. I do not trust anyone who tells me they are constantly “bored” when they’re alone. Learn to like yourself.

8. Be kind to yourself. You’ll encounter negativity regularly from the outside world. Be easy on yourself.

9. Exercise is the best form of therapy. I’ve learned to cope with anxiety, anger, and sadness that way. Cheapest form of self-help there is.

10. Don’t date your coworkers. I’ve made this mistake in my professional, grown up life. Luckily, he works 2 hours away. Even luckier, I can laugh about it, because I get teased on a daily basis about it. Which leads me to…

11. Learn to laugh at yourself. It’s the best way to get through a mistake. Or, ya know, dating someone who can easily be made fun of. 

12. When someone tells you something about themselves, believe them. You can’t change that. I once had someone tell me that whenever they get in trouble, they find themselves lying to get out of it. Uh, hello. Red, giant warning flag!

13. Speak up for what you want. Women of the world, this doesn’t make you a bitch! If you want a raise, respect, some help with the damn dishes, TELL THE APPROPRIATE PERSON! People can’t read minds. You have to tell em! 

14. They way people treat you has everything to do with them. You can demand respect all day long, but some people just aren’t going to step up and be good humans. This is their character flaw, not yours. Handle it with grace, and move on.

15. Classics in your closet are a damn good idea. Nude heels, black pumps, an LBD, something that makes you feel wildly sexy. Whatever that is, have it around when you need it. 

16. Find something you’re passionate about. It doesn’t matter what that may be. People are their most beautiful when talking about something their passionate about. Find your niche. 

17. Floss your teeth. Trust me. I could have saved my mouth a lot of pain if I would’ve started when I was told to.

18. Be able to cook at least one delicious meal. I can hardly follow a recipe, but I have a few tried and true winners. It’s nice to have a plan in case I need it.

19. Living at home with your parents is nothing to be ashamed of. Uh hello? This is my life right now. I’m saving a ton of money. And I’m so not sorry about it.

20. Change your mind, then change it again. Then go back to your first decision. You’re young. Don’t pressure yourself to make the perfect decision the first time, every time.

21. Stick with one type of beverage when you go out drinkin’. Yeah. I’m still learning this. My hangovers are a good reminder to stick to it. 

22. Social media is dangerous. Be careful what you post. Bitching about work, pictures of you doing body shots, bullying…just say no. Corporate HBIC you will thank 20-something you later.

23. You are responsible for your own happiness. Don’t hinge it on a boy, a friend, a job, today’s weather. Those things change. Finding happiness within yourself (I know, totally touchy-feely) will allow you to maintain it through the highs and lows.

24. It’s okay to be a little bit of a hot mess. You’re learning. You’re not perfect. Yes, you had 4 margaritas on a Thursday, and your head hurts, and you told your ex you miss him. But fuck it. If this is the worst thing that ever happens to you, you’re doing pretty damn good.   

Happy Mother’s Day, but actually

Hope y’all had a wonderful Sunday with your mamas. Mom wanted us to spread mulch and do yard work as her gift, so that’s what we did. I’m embarrassed to say my back is tight and super sore from it.

As a follow up to my previous post, my mother read it today and said “Do you want me to call the orphanage now so you can start setting up the adoption process?”

God love that woman. Now everyone knows where I get it from.

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(Mom and I, circa Summer of 1990. I’m
chubs and she’s got sweet leftover 80s hair.)

Happy Mother’s Day everyone!

Mother’s Day

I have an penchant for women who are funny and awesome and beautiful and strong. I love them even more if they are in the same field as me. Cause it’s a man’s world, babe, and we gotta stick together. 

Anyway.

My mother fits the bill to a T. She is undoubtedly the reason I have started this career in law enforcement. She’s the reason I love the criminal justice system, even with all of its faults. She is the reason for the woman I am today. 

Let me start off by saying I am not one of the women of the world who has always envisioned her wedding. Although I now have a Pinterest board full of these ideas (come on, there’s some cute shit on there. You can follow me at http://www.pinterest.com/erin15tay/), I have always been way more into my career than deciding what I want my wedding colors to be. If you have always been one of those people, power to ya! You will have your shit together when you get married. I will be picking place holders and drinking heavily. 

However, I am now in that awkward stage where I have friends and acquaintances (mostly the latter) who are, and I’m not kidding, SPRINTING down the aisle. I may have my shit together in (most) other areas, but not in the marriage area. The thought of devoting my life to someone other than my dog or family right now scares the shit out of me. I bought a romper the other day and kept the tags on it because I’m not sure I’m ready to commit, for goodness sake. My 20 year old brother (who is in a 4 year long, awesome relationship with a girl I like a lot) is probably going to get married before me. And that’s okay. But sometimes, I get a little panicky. Am I behind? Am I going to be a spinster with 2 labradors? Will I actually have to adopt that Asian baby I talk about all the time?! 

So Tuesday night, I curled up with my mom and had the following exchange:

“Mom, do you think I’m ever going to get married?”

**Heavy sigh**

“Come on, I’m serious! It seems like so many people are getting married. It can make a girl a little panicky.”

“Honey, of course I think you’ll get married. Multiple times.”

 

Happy pre-Mother’s Day Mom. I love you, too.

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